Are You Confused? These are 12 Pointers He is The Right Man For You

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You are going out with this guy, and a seems right between you two. It's all fireworks, and your heart misses a beat each time you see him. He says the right things, calls you often enough to check how you are doing. Not forgetting the special treats thrown your way every so often.

It feels right, and you’re almost convinced you’ve found the one. But perhaps you were hurt before, and you are afraid not to let yourself fall for anyone this time. Don’t worry; you are right to want to protect your heart.

There are so many ways to find out if he is really the right man for you.

One thing though, is that you should not get too caught up trying to find out whether or not he’s the one, or you may end up missing out on the good in him. Don't be detrimental in the attempt to try to get to the base of his feelings for you.
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 1. If he is the right guy, he will accepts your flaws 

The fact that you are aware of your flaws and he’s aware of them too but has decided to be with you - is a pointer that he is the right man for you and you should be thankful for such a man. Do you know, at times, he has to bend backward trying to overlook them, yet he does this without complaining. You are lucky to have found a guy who is not judgmental but takes you for who you are.

Lots of girls suffer lack of understanding from the guys they love. Since you’ve found one that is willing to take you as you are might be a pointer he’s the real dude.

2. He's proud of you and your achievements

You’ve been awarded the best worker of the month, and your guy is all happy to celebrate with you. In fact, he comes home that evening with an offer to take you out to dinner to celebrate the achievement. And does not forget to bring flowers or a nice gift when he comes to pick you for the date. With or without the flowers and gifts, picking you up for dinner shows how ready and willing he is to go extra miles to celebrate you.

There’s no way he’d go to such lengths to celebrate your strengths unless he cares for you. A good reason to be optimistic is the fact that, at the end of the day, he has no merit in your success, yet commits to celebrating it.

He takes your achievements on a personal level, Oh! bragging about you to other people means there’s more to what you have than a short lived fling.

3. He is always willing to talk things over with you

The art of conversation does not come automatically, and many in relationships suffer from lack of it. It is crucial for both of you to talk; otherwise, how else can you get to know each other?

The right guy will always set aside  times for you guys to talk things over. It could be that all you want to share is unhappiness at your workplace or something more personal that is stressing you out. He will prioritize his time to listen to you because he loves you dearly.

The fact that he makes time to be with you means that he really cares about your feelings. Listening is caring, no wonder he makes the time to sit by your side, to hear you out. A guy who is ready to listen to you is definitely one you should consider serious enough. This is another pointer that he's the right man for you.

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4. He gives you freedom without any restrictions.

Many relationships go wrong as a result of lack of freedom between the two. There are many instances of love gone sour as a result of one of them imposing too much on the other. Almost to the point of curtailing normal activities.

Without going over the board with the needs, an amount of freedom is required in order to pursue personal goals. It is essential for a healthy relationship to be in place.

If your guy understands the fact without expecting accountability for your every breathing moment, you can be sure you have found a keeper. One who understands well the basic human need for partners to enjoy the freedom to be themselves is surely the right man for you.

Celebrate the privilege of having someone who is so open-minded as your guy - Unlike many girls that are seeing guys who act insecure, lady luck has smiled in your way by giving you the one who knows the meaning of liberty.

5. Trust is very important

Trust might well be the main factor to either make or break your relationship. If you trust him, you can open up a lot to the guy. Think of it as an avenue for you to really be tight with a guy due to the fact you can count on him.

Bear in mind he also expects the same from you. Trust is both ways - so if you’ve found a man you can trust, be ready to be worthy of his trust as well.

Did you know that being able to trust your guy is an excellent weighing scale whether he is the one? Since you hope to be together a long time, it is good to know if he’s worth your trust and if he values trust in other people. If he trust you and values your trust for him, then he's the right man for you.

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6. He brings out the best in you

You feel confident when ever he is with you reason being that he encourages you, bringing out what's best in you. His presence makes you feel like you can conquer the world. That’s right; you have a man who cares enough about you to help you achieve your dreams.

He probably wants things to work out for you since he plans to be part of your future. He has it in his mind to stick along, otherwise why would he bother about what lies ahead of you?

If he helps you develop yourself in any way or takes an interest in what concerns you - he’s not a guy whom you should let go and you’d better make sure he does not escape your grasp. You too should in turn reciprocate the same amount of love he has for you, even better.

7. You feel alive whenever he is around you

A sure way for you to know if he is the one is to check how you feel around him. If you feel alive and liberated when he’s with you, that’s a pointer he is the right man for you. He makes you feel as if you have the world’s president on your side, making you believe you can do it all.

The flip side of it is a man who drains you, making life dreary instead. Thank God that your guy makes you come alive he sure is one you want to stay with you since he’s the right man for you, no doubt.

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8. He would want you to meet with his family, and he’s proud to show you off to everyone

He will introduce you to almost all the members of his family, and his mom appears to like you (he doesn't actually care if she likes you or not but, you should make yourself likeable). The fact he has taken you to his folks can only be taken to mean he sees a future together with you.

To make things even glossier is that he likes your family too and has an impact on them also. Clearly, you’ve both got affirmation from the others’ folks, meaning there’s a possibility you are likely to be together quite a while. Like forever.

The way he treats members of your family has a lot to say about what he’s got on his mind. If he’s out trying to endear himself to them, you can bet you’ve found your one and only. If that is not the case, he’d probably not care even about meeting them.

9. He will always want you to make plans about the days ahead (future) with him. 

If the relationship and the quality of your man is at this stage; definitely, there is no further risk to consider or fear to entertain. Unless for some unforeseen circumstances to cause a change of idea - you can go ahead to make the bookings.

A relationship with the possibility of a future comes from a commitment between the two. Being able to plan helps build confidence in what you have together

Can you imagine making plans and then having to abandon them halfway through? Thank goodness he’s not that kind of a guy.

Even though you have separate ideas about some things, you still agree on many others. He enjoys spending hours watching football during free time on weekends. While you’d rather go out shopping as a way to de-stress.

The fact you are able to reach an understanding and agree on the way to go means he is a good one for you. He’s willing to negotiate and does not push his own agenda but meets you halfway.

It is not something to take for granted being able to agree on some things, as there are couples who can't seem to agree on anything. Celebrate the fact you can reason and come to an agreement with your guy. This is a major pointer that he's the right man for you.

10. You are best friends

You share so much together and can have a basis to keep going a long time. If you were friends at first before you fell in love with him, that’s a sound basis for your relationship.

Do you spend lots of time together and enjoy being with him? You have a common goal, and that is to make each other happy. Both of you channel the right energy into it. Therefore, you are quite right for each other.

It is not such a significant effort for you to spend quality time with him, after you fall in love with a guy who, to start with, is your friend.

11. He’s emotionally available

It is disastrous for you to date a guy who is not emotionally available to you. Sort of like trying to open a stubborn door that’s been shut against you. Nothing can be so frustrating than having to spend time trying to get through such a person.

If on the other hand your guy is like an open book and you don’t have to keep trying to figure him out, you have some luck with him. He lets you into his emotions and also hears you out on yours.

You can start planning for the future together if you’ve found a guy who bares himself to you. You can comfortably claim to know him since he’s not some puzzle you have to keep trying to figure out all the time. It can be quite tiring and have a toll on you.

12. Final Thoughts

The question of whether he’s the one spans centuries for many couples before. Even though there is no direct way for you to find out, you can have a good idea through the way he treats you.

In line with what is mentioned above, is he the one for you? You have the answer based on how well he fits the bill. He may not possess all of the qualities mentioned above, but since he has most, you can be sure of having found the right man for you.

A guy may not say it in words, but the way he treats you speaks volumes about the way he feels. So if he’s doing all the right things and shows there is a future, he is beyond doubt the right man for you.
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